Tips on how to make your marriage work

Some women just can't stop getting it wrong. Like I keep telling people,I am me and not you, you are who God created you to be and not me. Please ladies, stop trying to be someone else, stop comparing your marriage or man to that of someone else. If you continue doing this, you will fail woefully. Those people who you compare your relationship with knows how to keep their homes. They know the weapons to use to keep their homes in order not to bring in problems. Listen, these women use weapons such as the fear of God, the Holy Bible, patient and love to manage their home. Why not be like these ladies. Here some tips to help you manage your marriage and relationship.
1. Always put God first in good and bad times of your relationship.
2. Love and believe in yourself.
3. We all are human, we make mistakes even you. Forgive your partner when he hurts you.
4. Overlook those little mistakes and show more love.
5. Never get angry when your partner is angry. When he says nasty things to you, just stay calm and try to control your temper. It's just two of you there. Yes, he called you a fool, stupid but the truth is that he said it to you and not for the whole world to hear. When the atmosphere is calm and he's in a happy mood let him know how hurt you are. You will see him apologise and even respect u more.
6.When you feel you cannot control your anger, my dear, pick up a piece of paper and pen, start writing all those insultive things you want to say to him. At the end of the day, you will see yourself tearing that paper and even thanking God that you never said all those things.
7.Don't give friends and family rooms to dictate or judge your marriage.
8 . Don't use your mouth to change your husband. There has never been a time in history where a woman's mouth changed a man. But there are testimonies everywhere and everyday where prayer and patient changed men. Your Bible and prayers are the best weapon.
9.Keep yourself busy with work or anything creative. With that, you will have less time to mind some of those things you see that can cause problems in your marriage.
10. Lastly,we all know that you cannot stick a man to yourself. All the same, trust your partner and be positive always.

Men should act better than this.

Chai, women have really suffered in the hands of men o. I was at Ecobank this afternoon to withdraw Some money from the ATM. There was this woman who put her baby on her back, the baby should be around 3-5months. The ATM was very slow, while people were waiting under the hot sun complaining. The next thing I heard from a man on the queue was 'All these useless Nigerian women who don't even know how to take care of children. An oyibo woman cannot behave like this'. As he said this, everyone turned towards his direction. You need too see the wicked stare I gave to him. Thinking he was through with his unreasonable talk, he continued saying' this is why most men abscond from their homes because of these useless Nigerian women that are never submissive'. I couldn't control myself anylonger, so I said 'Sir, if Nigerian women are useless, are your sisters and mother inclusive'. People who were present there started laughing and said 'Madam, you asked a good question'. The man couldn't answer me, he just looked away..lol. May God save women from the hands of wicked men.

Working class wives or Full Housewives.

The full housewife is said to be more responsible  for their children and home because they are always there for there to put things right. They are always available for everything that happens around their kids. They know when their children are sick and when to administer drugs, when a child is hungry and time to feed them, what to teach their children and what not to teach, and have more time to take care of the home. The full housewife children see their mothers as their close friends and role models. Also, to many some people, the responsibilities of a full housewife is more than that of their working class counterparts they are always busy from morning till midnight or the next day.

On the other hand, most people see the working class wife as the more responsible one.It is the belief of some men that only a lazy woman sits in the house and expects her husband to bring food. Gone are the days that our grandfathers go to the farm to plant and harvest while our mothers sit back to take care of the home. The economy of some countries has made most men to underrate the  responsibilities of a full housewives. Even some men prefer to leave in dirty houses or employ a nanny 4 their children. All they want is for their wives to go out work and bring in money.

My opinion is this, every woman should be busy. If you prefer an office work, its good but if you see yourself as a business person, it's also good. In all, women should keep themselves busy. This is 21st century, no man wants to marry or keep a liability in the house. There are so many responsibilities our husbands face on daily basis. There is house rent to pay, utility bills, school fees, care of oneself e.t.c. If only a man carries all these responsibilities, he becomes unhappy with himself (not all men), and sees you as a barrier to his progress because he cannot save like Mr A whose wife is a banker and supports her husband.

Also, it's not everything you want to buy that you run to your hubby. It is very good to take up some responsibilities in the home. It makes your hubby value you better and sees you as someone who is independent. Sometimes, you can just surprise your hubby by paying the children's school fees or plan and pay for the family vacation. There are also little things you can fix in your home like fixing the tap when it's bad, buying clothes for the kids, cooking

It's just my opinion, but wives in the house,  what do you think. 

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